What Are You Attracting?

Beloved,

You are a precious gift to the world, and should be handled as such. It's time to create some space between you and the folks who can't see your worth and don't value your existence.  You are the reason I am writing this blog.

On a whim I decided this morning that I would begin blogging. It was born out of my frustration with limited characters on twitter, and the overcrowded, always moving news feed on FaceBook.

Don't get me wrong, I love being a part of the social network community. I have learned a lot, and am privileged to connect with people that I otherwise would be out of touch with. There are varying opinions about social networking, and understandably, many have concerns for abuse or improper conduct.

In my opinion you attract in social networking the same thing you attract anywhere else you happen to be.

We attract people to us for one or all of three reasons:

1. We attract people based on where we are - Our stage of life
2. We attract people based on what we are - That is at our core, the essence of who we are
3. We attract people based on our career path

WHERE WE ARE

When a person hasn't fully come to understand who they are, they will often take on the image and characteristics of others. As a result, they attract people to them who are not truly like them, but mirror their current behavior. As they begin to grow in areas of their life that no longer fit the characteristics of these people they have attracted while they didn't know who they were, the others begin to criticize and and attempt to verbally assassinate the potential in the individual who is beginning to understand who they are.

Don't be alarmed when you realize the stages and fazes of life are a depot for dropping off and picking up new passengers to ride the train of life with you.

You are not all that you will become,  you do not know all that you will know,  and you have done all that you do.

If you feel yourself changing for the better, expect changes in the type of people you will attract. It's not to say that anyone else is bad, it just means you're growing. When I say attract I mean just that. Not you running behind someone in hopes that association with them will make you feel better or more important. It is in being better and understanding your own importance that you will attract the right people.

WHAT WE ARE

Each of us possess a unique essence. It is who we are at the core of our being. It is what we are.  It is the truth about us. It can be used for good or evil. It is our choice what we do with it and how we handle it.  A person with a loving heart can choose to love what is forbidden or they can choose to love what is good, right, and proper.  I believe this is only the first layer of our essence, and that there are two (or) more layers that make up the whole, with the second being how we process the information.

Here's what I mean; The idea of monogamy may have the same and yet distinctly different meaning to a heterosexual and homosexual person.  At the core they are both drawn to the concept of commitment and loyalty, yet in their thought process their convictions are not the same. Likewise, two businessmen who work side by side, may agree that hard work will pay it's reward, but may not agree on the process of hard work which determines if it will lead to honest or dishonest gain.  The thought process of our essence causes us to attract people of like mind. When we find someone who thinks like us we become comfortable in their presence. We find it easy to be around them. Your closest friends and confidants tell the rest of the world a lot about who you really are. If you have no close friends or confidants that also tells who you are.

The third layer is the motive and action layer. Several people may run a marathon race, yet each will have motives of their own. One runs strictly for the cause, while another uses it as an opportunity to optimize physical fitness and endurance, and another to gain popularity, notoriety, or photo ops.

OUR CAREER PATH

Doctors attract other doctors for camaraderie and dialogue, the same with clergy, athletes, musicians and so on. The list is endless. Each also attract an opposite. Meaning, doctors attract patients, athletes and musicians attract fans, and clergy attract followers. The more notoriety you have in your field, the more people you will attract. As fans, followers, clients or colleagues.

The truth is, the people we attract help us to see either where we are, who we are, and what we should or should not be doing.

Just something to think about... What Are You Attracting?

Sharon Dean